We are very happy that you want Jesus
to be part of your marriage — and therefore your wedding ceremony!
The Sacrament of Christian Marriage is a great communal celebration which takes place within the Catholic Church and is witnessed by God, family, and friends. “Your wedding day, is one day, but your marriage lasts a lifetime.” It’s a beautiful thing to start it off with God at its center and with the support of loved ones gathered around you.
The Church encourages couples to invest time and energy into the all-important work of preparing for their married life together and seeking God’s Presence and blessing throughout the journey. (See the bottom of this page for awesome resources!)
The Marriage preparation process should begin at least six months prior to the wedding date. You should not arrange for the reception, etc., until the date is confirmed with the church. Since marriage is an extremely important event joining two people’s lives together in the eyes of the State, and is a Sacrament of the Church, there are of course protocols to follow, forms to fill out, etc. But we have tried to organize everything you’ll need to do here and make the steps easy to follow!
Step 1: Contact Parish Office
Step 2: Meet with Clergy
Step 3: Complete Witness to love Program (WTL)
Step 4: Pick out music and submit for approval to Music Director.
Step 5: Pick out Marriage Ceremony Scripture Readings.
Your First step is to contact Dawn at the Parish Office. Do this by simply filling out the Preliminary Wedding Information Sheet (Please print clearly) and email it or drop it off at the office to start the marriage process. This form must be accompanied by a letter signed by both of you to our pastor, Fr. Eric Scanlan, giving compelling reasons why you would like to have a Catholic wedding and why you would like to marry at Incarnation Catholic Church.
Meet with Clergy
Once our Pastor approves your request for marriage, he will assign a Priest or Deacon to begin your marriage preparation process! At that point, you will be contacted via email to schedule an appointment to meet with that clergy member. This is where you’ll get all your initial information about the process of preparing for marriage and planning your wedding!
There will be 2-4 meetings. Before your first meeting, you should fill out your Pre-Marital Inventory questionnaire(PMI) as you will go over this with the deacon. It’s always interesting for the couple to discuss your PMI answers with each other and the deacon, and can be very enlightening and helpful for beginning your life together. The purpose is to help the couple see how compatible they are in areas of finance, sexuality, roles, in-laws, children, spirituality, etc. Taking an open look at these things with a caring and knowledgable facilitator can make all the difference and lead to a healthy and fulfilling marriage.
(A two-page affidavit form must be completed by two witnesses and turned in when you meet with the Priest or Deacon, so go ahead and print those out and get them to your witnesses).
At your meeting, you’ll go over how to choose a Mentor Couple to work with you in the Witness to Love Program (WTL) marriage preparation process. This had been a great blessing to countless couples and has resulted in many life-long friendships.
PLANNING THE WEDDING:
“The path of holiness lived together as a couple is possible, beautiful, extraordinarily fruitful, and fundamental for the good of the family, the Church, and society.” ~ JPII Beatification of Blessed Luigi and Maria Beltrame Quattrocchi
Liturgical Music at Church Weddings
You will find a wonderful list of common music selections here. If there are any you would like that are not on the list, simply email our Music Director for approval.
You may choose music for Preludes before Mass, Processional, Offertory, Communion, and Recessional. If you are doing the optional devotion of bringing flowers to the Blessed Mother to consecrate your marriage to her, you may choose a Marian hymn as well.
Only Liturgical music is allowed. No other form of music is permitted (modern, Broadway, movie themes, etc). Approved classical pieces may be used for preludes, Processional, and Recessional. The music that is shared in the Sacrament of Christian Marriage expresses not just the love of the couple for each other but, just as important, the love of God for them and for all His people. Since you have chosen to be married in the Catholic Church, appropriate music for this spiritual celebration must be chosen thoughtfully and in accordance with the beautiful teaching of the Church on Sacred Music in the Liturgy.
See the chart below for frequently asked questions concerning music. In addition you may email Erin Flynn with any questions.
Marriage Ceremony Scripture Readings (You will be given a book to look through and select these when you meet with the Deacon) Once you have selected your readings, go HERE to fill out the online form with the details of your ceremony. You can submit it directly to your facilitator’s email address. We do recommend registering with Together For Life, just so you can save the form and come back to finish or edit it, but it isn’t necessary.
If you have a wedding coordinator, you must notify Dawn at the Parish Office and get details from her about what role he/she is allowed within the church. She will let you know if you need to have them fill out the permission request form below or not.
Complete Church Wedding To-Do Checklist – We’ve created this checklist in the hopes that it will be helpful to you in keeping everything organized! We pray for many blessings on you both as you prepare for this amazing Sacrament of Matrimony!
Registered Member – $800
Non-Registered Member – $1,500
Marriage Preparation for a non-registered member being married at another location – $300
Our fees include:
* Use of the Church
* Altar Servers
* Music Director – correspond and assist wedding party with music selections and coordination of music and musicians within the ceremony.
* Use of our Bride’s Room to get ready and wait peacefully for your entrance!