MARRIAGE

We are very happy that you want Jesus 
to be part of your marriage — and therefore your wedding ceremony!

The Sacrament of Christian Marriage is a great communal celebration which takes place within the Catholic Church and is witnessed by God, family, and friends. “Your wedding day, is one day, but your marriage lasts a lifetime.” It’s a beautiful thing to start it off with God at its center and with the support of loved ones gathered around you.

The Church encourages couples to invest time and energy into the all-important work of preparing for their married life together and seeking God’s Presence and blessing throughout the journey.

The Marriage preparation process should begin (8) months prior to the wedding date. Since it is an extremely important event joining two people’s lives together in the eyes of the State and of the Church, there are of course protocols to follow, forms to fill out, etc. But we have tried to organize everything you’ll need to do here and make the steps easy to follow!

Step 1:  Contact Parish Office
Step 2:  Meet with Clergy
Step 3:  Complete Witness to love Program (WTL),
 Step 4: Pick out music and submit for approval to Music Director.
Step 5:  Pick out Marriage Ceremony Scripture Readings.

Your First step is to contact Dawn at the Parish Office. Do this by simply filling out the Preliminary Wedding Information Sheet (Please print clearly) and email it or drop it off at the office to start the marriage process. This form must be accompanied by a letter signed by both of you to our pastor, Fr. Eric Scanlan, giving compelling reasons why you would like to have a Catholic wedding and why you would like to marry at Incarnation Catholic Church.

Meet with Clergy
Once our Pastor approves your request for marriage, he will assign a Priest or Deacon to begin your marriage preparation process! At that point, you will be contacted via email to schedule an appointment to meet with him. This is where you’ll get all your initial information about the process of preparing for marriage and planning your wedding! 

There will be two meetings.  At that first meeting you will fill out a Pre-Marital Inventory questionnaire(PMI) and at the second meeting you will go over the PMI results. It’s always interesting for the couple to discuss your PMI answers with each other, and can be very enlightening and helpful for beginning your life together. 

(A two-page affidavit form must be completed by two witnesses and turned in when you meet with the Priest or Deacon, so go ahead and print those out and get them to your witnesses).

At your meeting, you’ll go over how to choose a Mentor Couple to work with you in the Witness to Love Program (WTL) marriage preparation process. This had been a great blessing to countless couples and has resulted in many life-long friendships.

PLANNING THE WEDDING:
Wedding ring

“The path of holiness lived together as a couple is possible, beautiful, extraordinarily fruitful, and fundamental for the good of the family, the Church, and society.”  ~ JPII Beatification of Blessed Luigi and Maria Beltrame Quattrocchi

Liturgical Music at Church Weddings

You will find a wonderful list of common music selections here. If there are any you would like that are not on the list, simply email our Music Director for approval.

You may choose music for Preludes before Mass, Processional, Offertory, Communion, and Recessional.

Only Liturgical music is allowed. No other form of music is permitted (modern, Broadway, movie themes, etc). The music that is shared in the Sacrament of Christian Marriage expresses not just the love of the couple for each other but, just as important, the love of God for them and for all His people. Since you have chosen to be married in the Catholic Church, appropriate music for this spiritual celebration must be chosen thoughtfully and in accordance with the beautiful teaching of the Church on Sacred Music in the Liturgy.

See the chart below for frequently asked questions concerning music. In addition you may email Erin Flynn with any questions.

Marriage Ceremony Scripture Readings (You will be able to look through and select these when you meet with the Deacon)

If you have a wedding coordinator, you must notify Dawn at the Parish Office and get details from her about what role he/she is allowed within the church.

Complete Church Wedding To-Do Checklist – We’ve created this checklist in the hopes that it will be helpful to you in keeping everything organized! We pray for many blessings on you both as you prepare for this amazing Sacrament of Matrimony!